Everyday Women - Q & A

February 03, 2020

Everyday Women - Q & A

We had the pleasure of sitting down late last year with the amazing Sharnah aka @thepeacefulhomemaker and talking through everything from being a mum to her amazing photoshoots. 

If you aren’t already following her journey on Instagram check her out.

What does a typical day look like for you?

Chasing a two-year-old, who is often naked and covered in Nutella, usually with one breast still out from feeding the baby every 25 seconds. There is always washing up to my knees, which makes me cry. I rock a bird's nest on top of my head, and I’m always burning incense. No, but seriously, I’m not joking - it usually looks exactly like that until 10am.

In between the chaos, there are a lot of adventures; we are a very outdoorsy tribe. We love to explore and just be with nature, so lots of beach trips, park runs, and walks. Every single day is different. I don’t believe in routines, so we just go with the flow.

Who is your biggest inspiration in life and why? (Can be living or passed)

This is a really tough one. There are so many inspirational humans who have helped to mould my mind into what it is today.

Russell Brand is one of my idols; his mind will forever leave me speechless. Angela Gallo is another soul who forever touches my soul when she speaks.
Constance Hall is another wonderful soul.

My mother in law, Katrina, is another soul I am forever inspired by. She and her husband have the kind of love that is just is real and raw, felt by all of those around. I’m inspired by her parenting styles. She raised 6 boys - now that is a badass. She forever gives her heart and soul to those around her who need it. You can feel at ease by just sitting in the same room as her. She is a true queen, and I hope to live up to be half the woman she is.

You have 2 amazing boys, congratulations – can you share with us a little about them?

Thank you so much. My first born is Leon Leigh. He will be three in December and is an absolute firecracker. He is nonstop energy until he goes to bed. He is always making everyone laugh, but he also the sweetest and kindest soul. He is one of a kind and keeps me always on edge but it’s always fun. He is the spitting image of my husband. 

My second is Obie Ryan. He is 8 months old. He is an old soul, the sweetest and most smiley little man… when he is being held, that is. He is always happy to just cuddle and watch what is going on. He is my little mini. 

How did having children change you?
“When a child is born, so is a mother.”
This is the most accurate quote. It is so deeply honest. I was in a very dark space before I fell pregnant with Leon. I was deep into depression. Becoming a mother was almost as if my life just fell into place. I had a purpose. Life is magical. I found my calling, my purpose. It was as if clouds vanished and things just started making sense. I know saw life in a different way. I was no longer just loving for me but for them.

What is the toughest thing about having children?

Losing yourself, your identity. Don’t get me wrong - I love who I am today; I love being a mother. But you lose your independence. You forget about yourself. That personal space does go, and it can be hard to remember to make time for you. You are important too. Us Mamas are the glue to the family. Without us, it all falls apart. I also found it hard to keep the spark in my relationship. You forget about each other due to the exhaustion and the demand that comes with children. It can be lonely.

What did you dream of doing for a career as a child and why?

Being a mum. No, I’m serious. Back in primary school, we were asked what we wanted to be when we grew up; it was a part of our homework for the week. We had a little box to do a drawing in. I drew myself with 4 little kids. I always knew I wanted kids. I knew that from a very young age. I won't lie though - there was a time from about 9 years old until about 12, where I truly thought I was able to sing. I wanted nothing more than to be the next Amy Lee from Evanescence.

 

Congratulations on your successful Instagram Page and thank you for sharing your journey with such rawness and authenticity – How did this start for you? What the best and worst parts of this for you?

Thank you so much. Honestly, I didn't even try to start out my page as being an “influencer” - the exact account was under “Sharnnah Jasmine” for years, and it was just your typical teenager’s account. I have always loved expressing myself and writing and “over sharing.” I never thought I was “smart” enough to do anything with that. I am a terrible speller, but thanks to spell check I managed to get around that. Anyway, after I had Leon I began to share more and more about my journey.
So I shared birth photos and breastfeeding photos, and it kind of just blew up from there.
I shared an image of me cooking dinner by the stove while Leon sat on the bench on my breast. Another of me on the toilet with Leon asleep in my arms. The real moments not many “influencers” choose to share. They aren’t pretty photos or moments, but they are real. People relate to them.

I found it really hard when it came to social media and seeing all these “perfect mums” and how unrealistic it was. I wanted to share my journey, but MY REAL JOURNEY. Un-edited. And I guess other mums around the world loved it. My photos and page continue to get shared around the world, and it continues to grow. I hope to one day write a book about my journey. But I just don’t know where to even begin.

The best part about being an “influencer/public figure” is connecting with so many likeminded souls from all over the world. I have made some genuine friendships via this platform. I love how even when we are physically alone with kids all day, this platform can connect us. Motherhood is lonely. It’s nice to know you're not alone.

The worst part is the judgment. There are so many people watching your every move and everyone has an opinion. I mean that’s cool - we are all entitled to them, but sometimes we need to just keep the negative ones to ourselves. I’m no superhero. I am a regular human living a regular life. I just want people to remember that sometimes.

What do you see as your biggest achievement in life and why?
Hands-down having two beautiful children.

But a few other achievements I don’t want to leave untold would be overcoming depression and marrying the love of my life, my high school sweetheart.

What age did you fall in love with your body? What changed or happened in life to make this happen?

I am still falling more and more in love with myself every day.
But I truly began this self-love journey when I fell pregnant with Leon. I was amazed at what magic my body could do. The way it stretched and moved literal organs in order to grow another life - I was and still am amazed at the magic that is pregnancy. I see my stretch marks as love marks, my loose skin as a home.

I never loved myself as a teenager. I was bullied most of my school life. I had a yellow front tooth and I couldn’t open straight (I still can’t!). This also made me have an extra chin. I still have these jaw issues however I have learned to accept them.

I was always “too skinny” according to others. I just never fit in any where. Kids can be so cruel. I ended up hanging around boys because they were a lot less harsh than girls. This ended up in me being labelled all the names you could imagine about the girl who hung around the guys.

It seemed no matter what I did or where I went, someone had something nasty to say.
I think this is how it is for a lot of people though. It’s just part of life. But as a teenager these things have a huge impact on us. Now I am into my adulthood. I have learnt to block out the negative comments and focus on myself and my family. True beauty comes from within and there is always going to be someone who has something nasty to say. Whether you’re a size 6 or a size 22.

 

What is your favourite body part and why?

My breasts. I just love that I am able to feed my children with them. It’s absolute magic.

If you could give your younger self 1 piece of advice what would it be?

 

You are a badass queen. You are worthy and that loneliness and darkness will ease.
Life is more than what it seems now. You got this, boo. 

What is 1 word you would use to describe yourself?

“Quirky”

 

What is your favourite book and why?

“Like a Queen” by Constance Hall. I love her rawness and how she is so unapologetically herself.

What is your mantra in life?

“This too shall pass.”
No matter what phase of your journey, good or bad, it passes. Nothing is forever. The bad days pass, just like the good days do. Nothing is forever. We need to live in the moment and appreciate what we have in this moment.

 

What type of undies are you? Brief / Boy leg short / G String

It depends on the day. I won’t lie, I love a Brief for comfort, but I also love a G String to feel sexy in!

Tell us more about the Postpartum Body positivity shoot you are organising. (At the time of our interview this was approaching on November 9th 2019).

I am so excited about this shoot. I have been working hard on this movement I’m trying to create. Basically, my vision is to have a group of women come together in our raw beauty. Having our souls connect and shine as a tribe of powerful, empowered women living in our magic that is postpartum.

I want to take back the definition of “postpartum” being only the first 6 weeks post birth.
Postpartum is forever. 6 weeks or 6 years. We are badass queens; our bodies are absolute magic, and I want to showcase that.


Every stretch mark, our loose skin, our breasts. All beautiful. We do not “bounce back,” we bounce forward.

Do you have a piece of advice for the teenage generation today?
I would like to sit with anyone struggling in their own skin and let them know that you are not alone. There is always, always someone else out there who is going through something.
The darkness you may be feeling today? It passes. It might not be tomorrow, but the light will come.

You and every inch of your being are unique and beautiful. Every flaw and every quirk is beautiful.

You were not meant to be like everyone else. None of us were. Don’t compare yourself of anyone else, because none of us were meant to be the same.

You are the only other you in the world. That is amazing.

RANDOM Q&A

Red lipstick or Gloss?

I love a clear gloss. Lipstick has never been my friend.

Cocktail or Wine?

I’m more of a “rum” kinda gal. However, I’ll never turn away a nice glass of Moscato!




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Sizing

Trying to find the right underwear size can be difficult due to different companies making different sizes. To make things easier we have created a step by step guide to take the guess work out of the equation.

Below we have measuring instructions with images to assist you.  

Finding your size in our Underwear Range:

All you need to do is take a couple of simple measurements; your waist, your lower waist and your hips. The best way to do this is by using a soft measuring tape and a mirror to ensure you are accurate.  If possible stand in front of a mirror when taking your measurements to ensure that the measuring tape is also parallel to the floor and is flat.

Measurement 1: Your waist

Your waist is the natural in indentation above your hips or just below your rib cage (see image). Wrap the soft measuring tape around firmly without pitching your skin together – write this measurement down.

Measurement 2: Your Lower Waist

Your lower waist is approx. 12cm down from your waist.  Take your measuring tape and run this down from your waist to 12cm (see image). Wrap the soft measuring tape around this area firmly without pitching your skin together – write this measurement down.  

Measurement 3: Your hips

Now wrap the soft measuring tape around the fullest part of your hips, this is approximately 25cm below your waist (see image). Use the mirror to check that your measuring tape is completely straight and parallel to the floor – write this measurement down.

 

 

Finding your size in our Crop Top Bralette Range:

All you need to do is take a couple of simple measurements; your Full Bust and your Lower or under bust. The best way to do this is by using a soft measuring tape and a mirror to ensure you are accurate.

Measurement 1: Your Full Bust

Your Full Bust is the fullest part of your bust (see image). Ensure that the measuring tape is completely straight and parallel to the floor. Wrap the soft measuring tape around firmly without pitching your skin together – write this measurement down

Measurement 2: Your Lower or Under Bust

The Lower or Under bust is measured by wrapping the measuring tape around your rib cage directly under your bust (see image). Wrap the soft measuring tape around firmly without pitching your skin together – write this measurement down

 

ELC Size 8 10 12 14 16 18 20 22
Full Bust Measurements (cm) 81-87 87-93 93-99 99-105 106-114 115-123 124-130 131-137
Lower or Under Bust Measurement (cm) 61-67 67-73 73-79 80-86 87-39 94-100 100-106 107-113
Waist Measurement (cm) 75 80 85 90 95 100 110 115
Lower Waist Measurement (cm) 90 95 100 105 110 115 120 125
Hip Measurement (cm) 95 100 105 110 115 120 125 130
USA 4 to 6 6 to 8 8 to 10 10 to 12 12 to 14 14 to 16 16 to 18 18 to 20
UK 6 to 8 8 to 10 10 to 12 12 to 14 14 to 16 16 to 18 18 to 20 20 to 22
EUROPE 34 to 36 36 to 38 38 to 40 40 to 42 42 to 44 44 to 46 46 to 48 48 to 50

 

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