Anyone else really feeling like the holidays are officially over and the work life has begun again?
Lots of us are sitting at our desks today, prepping for meetings, delivering reports, remembering (forgetting) kids’ events and activities, and just trying to fit everything into a diary that’s already crammed full. The yoga class, drinks with friends, quiet movie night—all planned with best of intentions-- get dropped to make space.
On top of that, my inbox and insta feed are stuffed with ideas and tips to make this my “best year yet”—which apparently entails increase my visits to the gym, upscaling my business, personal development, learning a new languages, and doing that hustle. Everything is a comparison.
If you know me, I love a good hustle, but I also need to step back and take care of myself and what is most important in my life.
My gorgeous son is now seven months old, and I’ve made a pact to look after myself better this year, mentally and physically. I want him to see me looking after myself.
I’m back boxing (for health and for fun, not to lose weight!), taking time to read a book, and I even booked a facial.
I was asking myself, why is self-care one of the first things to be dropped? And why do we feel bad sometimes about doing what our bodies and minds need us to do?
Hence this blog on all the reasons you should go for it and start taking better care of yourself.
Improving Confidence- feeling good about yourself
It’s one of the best ways to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself. Many women are also carers, which means we often put the needs of others ahead of our own. Practicing self-care, although it can seem unnecessary and frivolous, is actually a great way to build your confidence and self-esteem.
You are worth *insert that that thing that your body is telling you it wants*.
Chocolate? Five minutes of silence? Dancing to your favourite song in your undies to start the day? Go get it. Make time for it.
Stress Management- let’s get those cortisol levels down
If you are one of those people who is constantly feeling overstretched and stressed, thinking you don’t have time for “self-care,” you probably need it most! (Actually, those people probably don’t read blogs, so can you forward this to an awesome person who needs to hear it?) Good self-care habits like eating three healthy meals a day, spending time with someone you care about, or even doing a two-minute meditation can help to alleviate toxic elements of stress and improve your energy levels and mood.
Still think you don’t have time? Even just taking 30 seconds for a mindfulness exercise can be beneficial. Get up and stretch, look up at the sky, really taste that first sip of coffee, don’t just gulp it down.
Better Physical Health- how to look after your body without stepping foot in a gym
This is not, I repeat NOT, me telling you to work out. This is about moving in a way that feels good to you. It could be stretching, deep breathing, dancing with your dog in your lounge room, or calling your partner home from work early for some *ahem* fun times.
The idea here is to enjoy your body and what it can do for you.
Happier Relationships- your self-care impacts everyone around you
It may seem a bit selfish (that’s the name) but practicing self-care is one of the best things you can do for those around you. Ever heard that old phrase “You can’t pour from an empty cup?” If you fill up that cup with things that make you happy and feel like YOU, then you will have the energy to be your best self when it comes to your relationships with friends, partners, kids, and people at work.
Trust me, they will notice.
Better Postpartum health- making the most of your time with a new bubba
New mums are one of the last groups of people who are taking time for themselves and also one of the most vulnerable groups. As a recently new mumma myself, I know. If you have just had a baby, consider calling a friend to come and sit for just an hour or two so you can nap, shower, get a coffee, take a walk, whatever you need. If you have a friend who is post-partum, this is the best gift you can give her—some time to be herself.
On one of our next Q&A, we will meet Sharnnah, who talks about why postpartum health isn’t just a thing for the six weeks after you give birth.
Hopefully this has inspired you to be kind to yourself and take a little bit of time to be YOU today. Because you are fabulous, and you bloody deserve it.
We would love to hear what you’ve been doing for yourself and your own self-care! Come hang out with us on Insta @everydaylingerieco!
Or to read more about how to love yourself and your body (and what to do on days when you just don’t), check out our blog on body neutrality, where we talk about how to appreciate your amazing body for what it can do.